Archive for April, 2012

(Reference materials: Holy Bible, John Maxwell’s ’21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership’)

Titus 2:3-5 ‘Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children,  to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.’

Proverbs 31:11 ‘Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.’

The first thing you need to do every morning is lay down your cross.  Lay down your self…plans…everything…

1 Peter 2:19-21 ‘For it is commendable if someone bears up under the pain of unjust suffering because they are conscious of God. But how is it to your credit if you receive a beating for doing wrong and endure it? But if you suffer for doing good and you endure it, this is commendable before God. To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps.’

-Be prepared to be a Christian woman.  Do not be ignorant of the world’s schemes.

-Expect mistreatment, hardships.  Expect it so you won’t be shocked.

Recap Law of the Lid
We keep our lid low when we do not listen and obey God’s plans for our life.

Proverbs 14:1 ‘The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.’

He made you alive, with Truth inside you, to make wise choices.

John 10:4-5 ‘When he has brought out all his own, he goes on ahead of them, and his sheep follow him because they know his voice. But they will never follow a stranger; in fact, they will run away from him because they do not recognize a stranger’s voice.’

Psalm 34:5 ‘Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame.’

Hebrews 4:16 ‘Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.’

2 Peter 1:12-15 ‘So I will always remind you of these things, even though you know them and are firmly established in the truth you now have.  I think it is right to refresh your memory as long as I live in the tent of this body, because I know that I will soon put it aside, as our Lord Jesus Christ has made clear to me. And I will make every effort to see that after my departure you will always be able to remember these things.’

2 Peter 1:2-8 ‘Grace and peace be yours in abundance through the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord.  His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness.  Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.  For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.’

-Be sure you are seeking out, and responding to, Godly counsel.

-Dedicate yourself to learning, growing, knowing , more.

-Jesus sent the Holy Spirit, the ‘Wonderful Counselor’ to be with us.  Work hard.  Seek the Holy Spirit.  He will be there for you.

-Encourage each other.

-God will give you the desires of you heart and He will equip you.

Romans 7:17 – 8:1 ‘As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me.  For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out.  For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.  So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me.  For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!  So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in my sinful nature a slave to the law of sin.  Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.’

Psalm 139:1 ‘You have searched me, LORD, and you know me.’

Romans 12:1-2 ‘Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.’

-What is my plan for my personal growth? Lay our plans before Him.

-What are some things you want to see different in your life in a year?

-Be intentional about being different in a year.

-The same Spirit that raised Christ from the dead courses through you.

-Your personal growth will be exponential when you serve others.

Galatians 6:9 ‘Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.’

-Our first pursuit should not be a more ordered life, better relationships, etc.  Our first pursuit should be Jesus Himself!

Proverbs 3:5-7 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes;  fear the LORD and shun evil.

Proverbs 15:22 ‘Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.’

Isaiah 40:11 ‘He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.’
-Plans to ponder on during these lessons are not what we want to do, but who we want to become.
NO- “I am going to read my Bible everyday”
YES- “I want to be a woman who loves to be in the Word everyday”
-How do you want to be remembered?
-Write these plans out and daily check the list.
-Recognize that some of your goals will require help from others.
-Team needs to be your husband first.
The Law of Influence
To be a woman of God is to be a woman of influence.
-Jesus was the friend of sinners.
-Bless each other’s lives in friendship.  Build relationship.
Proverbs 4:4 Then he taught me, and he said to me, “Take hold of my words with all your heart; keep my commands, and you will live.”
Proverbs 16:24 ‘Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.’ (Use healing words)
Proverbs 4:20-22 ‘My son, pay attention to what I say; turn your ear to my words. Do not let them out of your sight,
keep them within your heart; for they are life to those who find them and health to one’s whole body.’
-Choose words carefully.  Keep to the bottom line.
Proverbs 16:21 ‘The wise in heart are called discerning, and gracious words promote instruction.’
1 Cor 11:1 ‘Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.’
-Do the people I want to influence actually listen when I talk?  are their lives affected?
-Don’t be afraid of Jesus searching your heart.
-Are you managing or influencing?
-Leadership is neither management nor position.
-Anyone who thinks he’s a leader and no one is following, he is merely taking a walk.
John 6:67-68 “You do not want to leave too, do you?” Jesus asked the Twelve.  Simon Peter answered him, “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life. We have come to believe and to know that you are the Holy One of God.”
-Be a person of character.  Do what you say you will do.
-Can you think of someone who has a position of leadership, but they are not really influencing?  By whom are they being influenced?  Who is making a difference in their loves?
-Selah: means ‘rest’.  Once a week, rest and ponder deep thoughts and questions.
-In your area of life, think of someone what you can say influences a specific area.  Where, when they speak, something happens.
-What are the areas of influence that you have?  There should be at least three…
Think of the people around you…
On a scale of 1-10, how influential are you in that person’s life?
What can you do to be more influential?
Philippians 1:9  ‘And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight…’
Psalm 37:3 ‘Trust in the LORD and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.’
The Law of Process

-It’s not going to happen in a day.

-Commit to learning.  John Maxwell reads one book a month, listens to one CD a week, and attends one conference a year.
-Process begins with the vulnerable fact that we might not know something.  Say to yourself, “I am going to learn how to do something.’
Galatians 6:8-10 ‘Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.’
-Pray: ‘Lord, would you show me some specific seeds to sow’?
-Write down 3 practical things you can sow into someone’s life.
Philippians 1:9  (again) ‘And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight…’
How do you enjoy spending time with people?
What energizes you?
-Leaders don’t “get things done”.  They invest in the lives of others.
-To become a leader is difficult.  But…
James 1:2-4 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
Romans 5:3-6 Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.  You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly.

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The Law of the Lid and The Law of Influence

(Note from Leigh:  Bev began a new teaching series that includes lessons from the John Maxwell book, ‘The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership.’  She had incorporated it with scripture and Biblical teaching to encourage women to be women of Godly influence and not worldly managers.  Here are the notes from that evening…)

Philippians 1:9 ‘And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight.’

Romans 12: 1,2 ‘Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.’

When the Lord corrects you, you can see and function better. (compare to the chiropractor’s gentle adjustment)

Leader:  To be a leader is to influence someone’s life.

Leader v. Manager

Manager: “This is how the home, husband, children, church, etc. need to be.”  This is what we focus on.

Jesus did not ‘manage’ people.  He invited.  He influenced.

Proverbs 31:11 ‘Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.’

Is your life one that someone would choose to follow or are they doing it because they have to?

Controlling v. Serving

Do I really want to know the people I am in relationship with?

In everything, always ask, “ God, how does this relate to my life?”

The Law of the Lid

Philippians 4:13 ‘I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.’

Know where your lid is.

If you want to influence those in your life you need to know where your lid is and how to lift it.

Ephesians 3:20-21 ‘Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.’

He is able to do amazing things because of what He is doing in your life.

Locusts eat to the root.  They destroy.  Can’t grow back.  But God can resurrect all relationships.

To raise your lid: Increase your influencing skills

Matthew 11:28-29 ‘Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.’

Ask another: “Do you trust me in your life?”

Do you want a marriage that survives, or do you want a marriage that thrives?

Positional Leader –  Saul – All about campaigns, building kingdoms, no trust in teams, did not listen to Samuel.

Influential Leader – David

Just because you have the position, does not mean that you will have the influence.  You need to have the relationship.

Nagging and bullying is not influencing.

Reference: CD from Family Ministries – A Woman of God: Controller or Servant

Women typically control out of fear.  Lord, show me where I am controlling out of fear.

Positional Leaders – King Ahab and Jezebel: no desire to get to know the people they ruled over.

Jesus intentionally became a servant so he could influence others. (ex. Eat my body; drink my blood. –Disciples may not have understood, but they followed anyway. (where else can I go?)

Are you making things happen out of position or relationship?

What do you want to be said at your funeral: “She knew how to get things done?” or “My life will not be the same without her in it?”

What are the lids that are keeping me from being an influencer? Fear? Impatience? Pride? Disobedience (saying ‘no’ to God?) Jealousy?

What is my next step in raising this lid?

Who are the lid lifters in your life?

Do I lift a lid for anyone else? Husband? Children?

What can I do to help others dream bigger?

What can I do to help others influence others?

Jesus was quiet, humble, unassuming.

What is the desire of your heart?

If the Holy Spirit is within you, what is the desire He has put in you?

I am yoked with the Lord.  Yoke – master oxen/young oxen.  The master leads the young one gently redirects.

The yoke is an instrument of production.  A life of peace and productivity.

Give up your life, and you will save it.  Keep your life, and you will lose it.

Ask your family- Tell me an area in my life that is weak.  Where I am managing more than influencing.

Focus on the person right in front of you.  In the activity, are you ‘with’ them? (fully present and engaged?)

Be a safe person.

The things that delight you, you want your kids to delight in them as well.

John 10:4 ‘When he has brought out all his own, he goes on ahead of them, and his sheep follow him because they know his voice. But they will never follow a stranger; in fact, they will run away from him because they do not recognize a stranger’s voice.’

The Holy Spirit brings us to focus on Jesus.  He does not keep us is a whirlwind of chaos.  Keep eyes in Jesus.  You may not have a position of authority, but everyone is created to influence.

Song of Solomon: If you cannot find your heart’s love; follow the tracks that lead to the sheepfold. (follow others who follow Jesus) (Follow me, as I follow Him. –Paul)

I will follow you. You smell like Jesus.

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I heard from a dear friend this morning who not only has been suffering in her body for many years, but now has the added affliction of wondering if there was something she has done to cause it. There is only one way to respond to a brokenheart, to seek the Lord and to hear His.

Isa 50:4 The Sovereign LORD has given me an instructed tongue, to know the word that sustains the weary. He wakens me morning by morning, wakens my ear to listen like one being taught.

This is what I seemed the Lord wanted her to know.

Dear friend,

In answer to your heartfelt question as to why you might be going through such a long and painful journey in your physical health, may I offer some consolation from the Word and from my own journey. Our bodies respond to our spirits, no doubt…therefore our physical conditions are sometimes linked to our spiritual walks, i.e. the need to forgive, to release anxiety into the sovereign and safe hands of our dear Lord, and to surrender control of our lives and the lives of others…the list goes on and on. But also dear one, sometimes we are hurting because our bodies are frail and are a part of a world that is temporary and subject to pain and death:

2Cor 4:16  Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.

2 Cor 4:17  For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.

2 Cor 4:18  So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.

2 Cor 5:1  Now we know that if the earthly tent we live in is destroyed, we have a building from God, an eternal house in heaven, not built by human hands.

2 Cor 5:2  Meanwhile we groan, longing to be clothed with our heavenly dwelling,

So, beloved, fix your eyes on Jesus. If there is something spiritual He wants you to deal with, He will lead you in it. Jesus is a good shepherd. He knows you are weak and is tender towards you.

Psalm 103:13,14  As a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him; for he knows how we are formed, he remembers that we are dust.

Be sensitive to His voice and quick to say yes. He does not make hearing from Him difficult; again, He knows we are weak, and that we are indeed sheep and in need of a shepherd. He will guide you.

John 10:4,5  When he has brought out all his own, he goes on ahead of them, and his sheep follow him because they know his voice.But they will never follow a stranger; in fact, they will run away from him because they do not recognize a stranger’s voice.

I am sorry that you are hurting. Give yourself time to rest. I wish I were there to fix you a cup of tea and help you look forward to a time and a place in which there will no longer be any pain, until then, know that I love you, and that you are not alone in this journey.

Your friend and sister,



Do you know this hymn?

It has been a source of comfort and encouragement for me.


1.     He giveth more grace as our burdens grow greater,
He sendeth more strength as our labors increase;
To added afflictions He addeth His mercy,
To multiplied trials He multiplies peace.

Chorus: His love has no limits, His grace has no measure,
His power no boundary known unto men;
For out of His infinite riches in Jesus
He giveth, and giveth, and giveth again.


2.     When we have exhausted our store of endurance,
When our strength has failed ere the day is half done,
When we reach the end of our hoarded resources
Our Father’s full giving is only begun.

3.     Fear not that thy need shall exceed His provision,
Our God ever yearns His resources to share;
Lean hard on the arm everlasting, availing;
The Father both thee and thy load will upbear.

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